Making our life dream real

Dear friend,

It doesn’t matter if we are 8 or 80.
We can make our life dream real.

When we know our life dream
we can’t wait for another day
to work on it!

The boy who dreams of being a vet
can’t wait to get up and feed his gerbils.

The girl who dreams of being a singer/songwriter
can’t wait to get up and sing her songs.

Both are clear
on what their life dream is
and are already making it real.

But what if you don’t know
what your life dream is?

How do you create your life dream?

The good news

I have good news for you.
You don’t have to create one.
You already did that!

You did it
when you were a child.

It’s already in there.

If you don’t know what it is
your dream got buried or lost.

Or maybe it’s just hiding!

So what do you do?

You dig deep and find it.

You may need assistance
to do that.

Or you wait for it
to show up on its own.

But it’s in there.

Every child creates an ideal
for themselves
when they are little.

The essence of their life dream
never changes.

Your happiness in life
will depend on
finding a way
to make your life dream real.

Going home

When I was 26
before I ever went to university

I encountered the writings of a psychoanalyst
whose work explained and transformed me.

I finally understood the cause of my suffering
and became able to resolve it.

Writing these letters to you
I am seeking to give you
that same experience.

I entered psychoanalysis
and made a huge decision:
that I would become
a psychoanalyst myself.

Many long years of study later
when I was about to graduate
from the PhD program

on my way to becoming a clinical psychologist
so that I could do psychoanalytic therapy,
I went home to visit my mother.

She had old drawers of my belongings.

I was going through them
when I came upon
some little squares of paper.

They had child level writing on them.

I didn’t remember creating them
nor ever seeing them before
but they were mine.

I was always a flawless speller
but these words had some errors

so I knew I could not have been
older than about seven
when I wrote them.

What did they say?

Dr. Deborah Hall psychiatrist
Come to me all ye broken hearted

This was followed by a statement
of the irony of me
setting myself up to heal others!

On another little square of paper
was my first self analysis:

Debby
self confidence
rest-lessness
a little arogance
imaginative
skillfull
a lot of fun
indecision
over worked and tired
fear of failure

To this day,
amazingly accurate.

At the bottom
a small drawing of a smiling cat
with a bow on its tail.

So it had all been decided

My archaeological discovery
was a revelation.

I was utterly shocked to find out
that my life path
had already been decided long ago.

That I had actually made
this far-reaching decision
when I was just a little girl.

And that all these years
I had had no conscious awareness
of my decision.

Yet, at an unconscious level,
my life dream had always been there.

Firmly established down deep inside me.
Leading and guiding my life path all along
…and still proceeding as we speak.

But what if your life dream is impossible?

Your life dream as a child
is very likely impossible
in its scope.

It may be utterly fantastic
and grandiose.

Maybe like me
—then and now—
you want to save the world!

But every life dream
can be modified
to make it reachable and real.

To do that
we focus in
on the core of it
—the part that gives us
the greatest joy—

and we build ourselves up
to make that core attainable.

That’s what we do
as we grow up.

And we continue doing it
for the rest of our lives.

It’s what keeps us alive.

We put the foundation
under the essence
of our life dream

so we can actually
live our dream in reality!

What we are doing here

That’s what we are doing together
here in Solutions.

We are putting the foundation
under our life dream.

We are solving our problems
so our foundation grows strong.

Our strong foundation will hold us
as we make our life dream real.

Writing my letters to you
I am living my life dream.

I am building your foundation
so you can live your life dream
and make it real.

Blessings

and Happy New Year!

Dr. Hall