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Al Bellenchia's avatar

Yes. It starts and ends with character.

Integrity, compassion, empathy, conviction. Qualities of inner strength and self-esteem.

Attributes that change lives, when put to serving others.

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

integrity compassion

empathy conviction

you have deepened

our awareness

of the components

of character

thank you al

for sharing your insights

with us

JBR's avatar

Fabulous. James

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

thank you james

for your wonderful response

you made me so happy

Fred Basset's avatar

Doing something admirable for a crowd is easy. Doing the right thing when no one will ever know is character.

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

ah i did not

think of that fred

but what you say

is so true

it's what we do

when no one

is looking

Dave Conant - MO's avatar

And the basis of character is integrity, which C. S. Lewis defined as "doing the right thing when no one is looking." Your first phrase aptly defines the pharisees in our time as Jesus did some years ago.

Dave Conant - MO's avatar

Another great interlude on a Friday morning. Thanks Deborah and have an awesome weekend.

One does not successfully set out to be admirable, although one can set out to be admired. The seeking after public recognition is a virtual guarantee that one will not behave admirably, because public approbation is too fickle and superficial to be sustained without constant attention and admirability often doesn't arrive until one is past the point of noticing. The self-centered and self-possessed are rarely, if ever, seen as admirable even during their lives while, as you point out, people who end up being admired don't see their behavior as anything notable while they are doing it.

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

i see what you mean dave

thank you for your insights

living with integrity

is what we are seeking to do

whether we are

ever recognized

or not

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

dear leland

thank you for sharing

your life story with us

it is evident

how closely you follow

the teachings you cite:

"Do justly now.

Love mercy now."

there is a great deal

for us to learn from you

and your deep commitment

to living an honorable life

Leland Katz's avatar

Thank you. I’m glad you think so.

William Weaver's avatar

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

thank you william

for giving me

a big smile 💖

William Weaver's avatar

You are very welcome! 😊

Dr. Patricia Morton's avatar

Deborah, thank you for this compassionate and thoughtful posting.

But when you discuss how to be admirable while facing adversity such as pain and poverty, I wonder why you don’t include racism? Surely it must be very difficult for Black and brown Americans to be admirable while they are confronted by white racism and discrimination and while being terrorized and imprisoned and even deported by Trump’s ICE thugs.

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

dear patricia

your vital contribution here

illustrates how deeply

you care about all people

i did not think of racism

as i was listing adversity

that is a glaring omission

on my part and i appreciate you

bringing it forward here

yes it is extremely difficult

to be admirable

when being despised

terrorized and imprisoned

by violent thugs

Bill Alstrom (MA/Maine/MA)'s avatar

Admirable. To be admired. But for what? People here would hope to be admired for empathy and sacrifice. For helping and building. But sadly, so very sadly, the essence of our current public consciousness admires cruelty and unnecessary toughness. ICE is an example.

The recent "State of the State" address by Gov Pritzker of Illinois was IMO ground breaking. He dared to speak about the power of love. Now...that is Admirable.

Dr. Deborah Hall's avatar

yes

thank you bill

for offering us

such a clear example

in our current crisis

gov pritzker

is highly admirable

his courage

his words

and his actions

are the epitome

of servant leadership