Louise Hay: "Forgive them. They were doing the best they could with what they had to work with." She wasn't being sarcastic. Just realistic. Same for all of us.
Greetings Dr. Deborah, I loved reading your precious article and message. I have not heard a peep about Childbirth Without Fear for 49 years!
I respected and trusted the work and advice of Grantley Dick-Read and in 1974 and 1976 I gave birth to a daughter and son without anesthesia and without cutting the umbilical cord instantly that connected me to my babies while in harbor, and I asked the Obstetrician’s to please hand me my babies too see if they would nurse and not to be bathed instantly and to please turn down the lighting so my sweet tiny babies would hopefully have less of a shock. I loved being with child and the power and awareness and magnitude of giving birth.
I had a nurse midwife willing to home deliver, but I was living at nine thousand feet in a beautiful cabin with a glorious fireplace and wood stove, only wood heat, and an “outhouse”. So, I declined the home birth and had as much of a natural childbirth as possible without being home.
I drove down to Boulder when my water broke and the rest is a beautiful life, with many challenges. I always have, and still, bloom wildly! I’m happy to have crossed paths with you, Geraldine
I vowed, as the first child of a highly intelligent and deeply flawed mother, that l would not duplicate that dynamic with my children.
Many years of therapy and living a productive life have made a big difference. My first and best therapist (a Jewish refugee from Vienna -1938ish), was most nurturing and instructive. She encouraged my self-reliance and this has stayed to bolster my resilience.
Your words are beautiful Dr. Hall and the value, impact, and essential nature of forgiveness unquestionable. Thanks for sharing this and have a very Merry Christmas.
Forgiving is hard. Forgetting is harder. Nobody said growing was easy.
Forgiveness is a boomerang gift because it always comes back to you!
Louise Hay: "Forgive them. They were doing the best they could with what they had to work with." She wasn't being sarcastic. Just realistic. Same for all of us.
Wise words. I wish I could forgive myself. My parents were great.
Greetings Dr. Deborah, I loved reading your precious article and message. I have not heard a peep about Childbirth Without Fear for 49 years!
I respected and trusted the work and advice of Grantley Dick-Read and in 1974 and 1976 I gave birth to a daughter and son without anesthesia and without cutting the umbilical cord instantly that connected me to my babies while in harbor, and I asked the Obstetrician’s to please hand me my babies too see if they would nurse and not to be bathed instantly and to please turn down the lighting so my sweet tiny babies would hopefully have less of a shock. I loved being with child and the power and awareness and magnitude of giving birth.
Thank you for being here, Geraldine
Ah what a gorgeous response from you, Geraldine!
I too had never heard another peep till now!
Your story and mine are so much in harmony.
I gave birth to my son in 1971 and my daughter in 1972
at home without anesthesia and I held them close right away to nurse.
I too loved being with child
and the glorious experience of giving birth to my treasures.
Thank YOU for being here, Geraldine
Deborah
I had a nurse midwife willing to home deliver, but I was living at nine thousand feet in a beautiful cabin with a glorious fireplace and wood stove, only wood heat, and an “outhouse”. So, I declined the home birth and had as much of a natural childbirth as possible without being home.
I drove down to Boulder when my water broke and the rest is a beautiful life, with many challenges. I always have, and still, bloom wildly! I’m happy to have crossed paths with you, Geraldine
Today I will write a poem
About my mother
Liberace style
Not on the piano
Tho
And I will share your poem
On my Notes
With mine
Nothing to forgive my mother for
Hamlet move over
I vowed, as the first child of a highly intelligent and deeply flawed mother, that l would not duplicate that dynamic with my children.
Many years of therapy and living a productive life have made a big difference. My first and best therapist (a Jewish refugee from Vienna -1938ish), was most nurturing and instructive. She encouraged my self-reliance and this has stayed to bolster my resilience.
Your words are beautiful Dr. Hall and the value, impact, and essential nature of forgiveness unquestionable. Thanks for sharing this and have a very Merry Christmas.
Most excellent advice, thank you Dr Hall